1) Establish up front that you are the CLIENT and you are in charge. Let him know if you don’t like a talker. Tell him if he has absolutely no room for independent judgment. If you don’t want to hear a single song that isn’t on your personal playlist, let him know. Lay out the ground rules and don’t be afraid to be a little bit aggressive and put it writing, asking him to acknowledge your requests. Many wedding dj’s prefer you be upfront and direct. Just don’t be rude about it. There’s a way to be demanding without being Bridezilla. Be a little nicer if he’s your only option at the venue.
2) Be very specific about your playlist and, if he doesn’t give you a good form to work with, create your own and include the following categories:
– Cocktail music pre-entrance
– Entrance song
– First dance song
– Daddy/daughter dance song
– Mother/son dance song
– Cocktail music post-entrance
– Dinner music
– Cake cutting song
– Bouquet/garter toss songs
– Last dance
3) Decide whether you’re going to let the wedding dj take requests or not, and make sure you’re clear on the system with the wedding dj. If you’d prefer he not take requests, you can ask him to tell people that he doesn’t have the music being requested up to a certain point. If somebody gets aggressive, he might have to explain that the bride and groom have requested no spontaneous requests.
4) Be VERY SPECIFIC about your “Do Not Play” list. Those are the songs you really, really don’t want to hear at your wedding. You never know what your friends may request, and you’re better off making sure the wedding dj knows at the outset exactly how you feel about that. Trust me, “We are Family” can be a very awkward music selection in many groups.
5) Get your playlist to your wedding dj as early as possible. Every wedding dj has a different system, and many of them have to pull your playlist from their master systems, especially if you’re getting married somewhere like the tropics where the wedding dj’s might not have the most current systems. Some of them need time to make sure they have all your music ready in time for your wedding. At the very latest, have all song selections to your music master no less than 30 days prior to your wedding date. A full 90 days is even better.